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Are you finding it to be tough to get started in a new venture?  Are you working out enough or have you put it off completely?

Are you afraid to walk up to a beautiful woman and start a conversation with her because you’re afraid of being rejected?

Are you alone? 

As we’ve discussed in prior engagements, the mind only truly reacts to either intense pleasure or intense pain.  Feeling one of these two emotions will get you to make a change in your life instantly.

Think about it, are you in a “comfort zone”? Have you though about making some changes but life is too comfortable right now?

Are you one of those people that would rather look back and say, “I KNOW I could have done it… but I just didn’t…”?

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My expertise is Nice Guys.

Here’s a common refrain I frequently hear from Nice Guys, “All my female friends think I’m a catch, yet I think they all see me as simply just a friend. What should I do?

Being labeled a “Nice Guy” by a woman is the kiss of the death. If all the women you know are happy to share their problems with you, yet have no interest in dating you, I suspect I know what your problem is.

Think back to when you first started noticing the opposite sex in junior high or high school. The girls were developing physically and socially. They were intriguing. They were mysterious. They were hot.

You were changing too. Your voice was cracking. You developed body odor. Hairs sprouted on your chin. Even though your body was developing, your social skills lagged way behind those of your female peers.

You wanted the attention of the girls your age, but you had no idea how to get it. It seemed as if they were from a different planet.

If you were lucky enough to be really good looking, good at sports, very wealthy, or confident beyond your years, you might have naturally attracted the attention of the boy-crazy teenage girls. But alas, you weren’t any of those things, so you had to come up with another strategy.

It dawned on you. You would be different from the other guys. You wouldn’t be like the jerks who the girls (and maybe your mother) complained about. You’d be a Nice Guy. You would listen. You would be polite. You would go out of your way to do nice things for the girls you liked. This struck you as pure genius, especially since you didn’t have a clue of what else to do.

Unfortunately, this was the beginning of the end. You became a “Girlfriend with a Penis” (GFWAP). You became the guy girls talked to you about their jerk boyfriend. You drove them around in your car when they needed to go somewhere.

You became their “gay” friend. You were the guy destined to make some lucky woman a great boyfriend some day. All the while, you held out hope that the woman of your dreams would come to her senses, see what a great guy you were, and fall madly in love with you.

Becoming a girlfriend with a penis is terrible dating strategy and ineffective foreplay for a number of reasons.

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In [Part 1] we looked at WHY sexual communication is so important for your game. This time, we’re talking about HOW to do it better.

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Something that is so funny is that so many guys try to get a kiss close.

For those of you that don’t know pick-up language, a kiss close is when you meet a woman in a square in Europe, or you meet a woman in a bar, or wherever, and you get a kiss close. This means you talk to her for like five or six minutes and then you get a kiss close.

But what is so funny, and what most guys don’t think about is this: that doesn’t validate you!

So you kissed some random woman? If she was so up for kissing you, you don’t know who’s dick she had in her mouth the night before! So basically you’re kissing someone’s dick from the night before. Think about that.

Not only that, but I know guys that have kiss closed women in bars, and I’ve seen it – they’ve actually kiss closed a woman in a bar, and they come over and they are so proud of it – all of a sudden I’ll see that woman making out with some other dude in the corner, grabbing his crotch.

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Each flourishing pick-up artist and dating coach we’ve grown to love has likely had his beginnings at FastSeduction.com website, also known as “Fast Seduction 101”, or “FS”.  It’s widely known for being the starting point in many successful pick-up journeys.  The world’s greatest pick-up artists have claimed this to be a point of reference and community for them, even now, after mastering their game.  They understand the principle that the most attractive men are the ones who are continuously growing and learning.  The only thing promised and the only thing that is constant in the life of a dating expert is: change.

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We chat with Mehow about attraction, social circle game and his development in the game.

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The whole idea of sexual communication seems nebulous; what is it? How can I do more of it? Is it  actually sexual (because most of the time thinking ’sexual’ scares women away)!?

From now on I want you to consider ‘real’ SEXUAL communication as NATURAL communication. In order to do  this, you have to have a proper definition of sexuality.

If you have the belief that pornstars are models of sexuality, that belief (and all of the emotional energy charged around it) will form your experience of reality. You would chase the prize of what you thought was sexual.

The thing is, porn is not natural or sexual; it’s purely SOCIAL. It’s the exploitation of the culmination of a pre-existing relationship; used to manipulate the economic behavior of men and generate billions in profits for multiple industries.

That’s why maybe you’re stuck in the social dynamics of ‘tactics’ and ‘game’ trying to ‘get’ what you  believe is sexual when it’s really just all female social adaptation. Women KNOW it’s not sexual but can’t ever tell you because you’re supposed to already know that sexuality is something ENTIRELY different.

But if you didn’t know this, you would continue to communicate with what you thought was real in the world around you; social and interpersonal communication. I mean, porn even LOOKS real when you’re in  relationship to it but that’s the whole illusion.

When you can communicate on that true sexual level (which is NATURAL), that’s when EVERYTHING changes and your success with women will skyrocket. More tactics and countless approaches are NOT the solution if you’re communicating with her social adaptive mask.

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There are really only 3 basic things you need to know to completely rock a girl’s world in the bedroom

Let’s call them the “ABC’s Of Great Sex”:

• A: ANATOMY (hers) – You need know the basics of her body.  Know where her “magic buttons” are and how to touch them in the right ways.  Understand her body and the way it responds to different types of stimulus.  And, for  extra credit, let’s include her brain.  Knowing how to stimulate this part of her anatomy is the shortcut to giving her powerful orgasms.
• B: BODY CONTROL (yours) – Great orgasms can come from your fingers, your tongue, and many other techniques… but great sex, especially great love-making, requires that you can control your erection.  You need to be able to get hard when you want to, and you need to be able to last as long as you both want it to last.
• C:  CONNECTION – This is the part that most people mess up completely.  It is the most powerful way to give her an unforgettable experience in bed (even if it is a one-night-stand… connection doesn’t mean that you’ve promised to love each other forever).  And, of course, this is the part that I tend to talk about most in my writings…

But let’s talk “B” for a minute.

Here’s some quick facts for you:

While many studies have been done that show that the average Joe can last for 2.5 minutes… or somewhere around 7 minutes (the studies never agree)… the fact is, nobody knows how long average is, because there’s nothing like a stop-watch in the room to change everything about the way you would normally have sex.

But I’ll tell you this much– after years of giving advice on sexuality, I can tell you that it is the most common question that men ask me when looking for my advice.

And, not be cute or dodge the question, but I think if you take a mature look at the issue, it’s obvious that “long enough” is the amount of time it takes you both to be happy and satisfied.  So, by definition, if you want to learn how to last longer then, obviously, you are not lasting long enough for your OWN satisfaction.

It’s also worth knowing, right now, that even if you have a severe problem with premature ejaculation, you CAN learn to last as long as you want.  ANY man can learn total control over his ejaculation given some time, practice, and the right information.

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A lot of times, guys hear the term “frame,” have an epiphany, and strengthen the bubble that separates who they are from the rest of the world. Almost immediately, these men get a positive response from women, loved ones, coworkers, and friends. Then, after a while… those same women, loved ones, coworkers, and friends signal to these seemingly “strong-framed” men that they are total assholes. Either a fallout, a burned bridge, or a desertion of connection will inevitably occur.

What the hell happened? Is it possible for one’s frame to be too strong?

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We chat with Mehow about attraction, social circle game and his development in the game.

Check out The Art of Charm

Check out Hookah Paradise Don’t forget to use coupon code ‘pickuppodcast’ to save 10%!